The best flirting tips for shy guys

I would like to share with you in this post some of the best flirting tips for shy guys, I know a lot about this subject because I was a very shy guy when I was young, in fact, I am still a very shy person, I hate going out and meeting new people, I hate talking face-to-face with others, yet, I do it every single day, not because I feel obliged to, but because I would like to, I go every day beyond my comfort zones and this is what makes me so successful with women even when I’m a very shy person.

  • So, let’s start with the first flirting tip for shy guys: go beyond your comfort zones!

I know that this going to sound very strange and somehow difficult to most of you, after all, comfort zones have nothing to do with flirting with girls! Right?

Well, it has everything to do with it!

Your comfort zones are your own set limits, where you cannot go beyond, and when flirting with girls, you have to always push your limits in order to explore new territories, and this is what most shy guys don’t do!

They don’t go beyond their comfort zones; they are scared of what people may think of them, in fact, they are afraid of what is going to happen to them if people find out who they really are!

I don’t want this happening to you, that’s why you need to train yourself in order to go beyond your comfort zones every single time when you are with a girl.

Trust me, on the first occasions, you will have so many troubles and so many problems with girls, especially if you are new to dating and flirting, but within a very short period, your mind is going to adapt and you are going to have tremendous success with them.

This is my promise:

When you start flirting with girls, the first times are going to feel horrible, it’s because you are going beyond your comfort zones, you are exploring new territory in your psychology, and your body is going to try to stop you so as not to get rejection, but as you do this, your comfort zones are going to expand and grow much more, which is very important and enriching to your life.

My advice is to always go beyond your comfort zone every single day, if you fear something, just do it, this is how you are going to start advancing and growing in life.

For example, you hate going out by yourself to bars or clubs, well, guess what!?

You need to do it, and you need to do it every single day until it becomes your second nature!

You hate asking girls for their numbers, read more posts on this website to find out how to get phone numbers quite easily, and I want you to go out every day and ask girls!

Trust me, you will get rejected, you will hate yourself for two weeks, maybe a month, and then, with perseverance and daily trials, you will find yourself unstoppable and you will soon realize that you were holding yourself by an imaginary chain that you have now broken!

And this is when you are going to become truly amazing when flirting with the ladies, even if you are very shy.

  • The second flirting tip for shy guys is to have fun.

What are the things you like the most?

Please, take a pen and paper and write the things you really enjoy in life, be it video games, movies, or even board games, I don’t care, just have some things you really like and enjoy in your mind and then write them.

Then, think of some amazing subjects you can talk about with girls, which are also very interesting to you, then, whenever you are with a girl, start involving such subjects in your conversations, tell her about the things you love, the things you really care about and most importantly, let her tell you her opinions about them.

This advice is very important to you because once you start talking about the things you really like and most importantly, you really know about, you will find yourself feeling ease and satisfaction with girls, in fact, you will have no troubles coming up with things to talk about and girls are going to enjoy your lack of hesitation when it comes to keeping the conversation going with them.

  • Now, let’s talk about the most important flirting tip for shy guys: listen to her!

This is my secret weapon, I always leave it to the end of every article on flirting, it’s because most guys are so impatient that they are going to only read a few lines and then close my posts and go watch cat videos on YouTube!

Then, one day, out of the blue, they will decide to use their “knowledge” on dating and seduction, only to find that it’s not working!

You are a patient person, that’s why you are here, near the end of this post. When you are with a girl, and you feel very shy, just close your mouth, smile a little, but most importantly, enjoy listening to her and let her speak! Girls love to and you are going to feel amazing once they start opening up to you and saying what they have in mind, you will find so many hidden gems about them that you can use later on, you will have confidence with them as well because you will spend a lot of time in their company.

Listen to her, let her reveal herself to you, it’s the best advice I can give you when it comes to flirting, even if you are very shy, just use it, you will not believe the success you will get with girls.


  1. That is some great tips man, thanks

  2. Agreed

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